Where eharmony (opens in a new tab) falls short
The Video Date feature, launched shortly after social distancing rules made it difficult to meet up in person, aims to keep first dates alive without the need to give out a Zoom username or phone number.
Everything is based on a 32-dimension system of multiple facets of successful relationships and companionship, but worded in a way that’s actually enjoyable to take. Questions and prompts are relatable, steer away from corny self rankings, and put a much larger focus on core values, future family life, and people skills outside of romance. (No one wants to date someone who’s mean to their neighbors.) It’s refreshing to see eharmony listen to its younger users and make changes to appeal to all types of serious relationships – not just the 40-year-old Christian, marriage-bound ones.
Familiarity with the eharmony that existed in the early 2010s means you probably also know about its not-so-inclusive past. The landing page used to feature your typical heterosexual hipster couple and users searching for same sex matches were automatically sent to eharmony’s spin-off site, Compatible Partners. After a 2010 lawsuit over the separation of gay and lesbian users from straight users, the early 2020 replacement of the original CEO with a CCO, CFO, and COO, and a clear need to move in a more modern, young, and inclusive direction, same-sex matching is now offered on the same page as straight matching and the hovering Christian vibe and church-related questions are gone. Still, this past might still be a turnoff for the LGBTQ community and their allies. Users on Reddit as recently as 2019 say that it still seems more geared toward straight people.
Pinning down the official membership price is tricky. Prices change constantly, but as of this story’s writing, a subscription will run you $ a month for a 6-month plan, $ a month for a 12-month plan, or $ a month for a 24-month plan. To be fair, eharmony does offer frequent sales where monthly prices are often slashed in half.
Though work and school stuff is the underlying reason for choosing EliteSingles over another site, we appreciate that the opening questionnaire isn’t completely dedicated to the professional stuff
Other than having a forgiving attitude and prepared bank account, you’ll good grief definitely need patience. The questionnaire is much less tedious, but if you’re picky and won’t settle for a meh compatibility score (as you shouldn’t), it can take a while to sort through everyone who the algorithm hurls at you – especially now that the questionnaire has been shortened and lazy folks can skip it all together.
Where EliteSingles (opens in a new tab) wins
The end goal here is still to find a romantic connection with a solid long-term partner, and factors related to emotions, communication, and interests past a career still matter. The recently-modified questionnaire, now shorter and super personable, puts you in hypothetical situations and asks you to guess how you’d behave. If your partner showed up to a date late, would you let them know you’re annoyed or would you let it go because you’re also late sometimes? If you get into an argument, do you need to talk it out before bedtime or do you need a day to blow off steam?
Questions about your ideal first date and whether you’d initiate a kiss are also tossed in. Preferences on smoking, drinking, and whether potential matches have kids or not can also be eters that can avoid lifestyle disagreements in the future.
Keeping in line with the EliteSingles mantra, you’ll be asked to disclose your job title, type of degree, and income bracket. This seems like a breeding ground for scammers and sugar daddy-seekers, but EliteSingles claims to manually verify accounts to ensure that your data (or pure little heart) isn’t at risk.